Went to a hen's party last sat... too bad i am still breastfeeding so i abstained from all the alcoholic drinks and didnt enjoy as much as i would be....Was having a conversation with one of my frens abt having a 2nd child.. hold on... in case some of you get excited, "NO" i am not thinking of having 2nd one now but more of feelings having a 2nd child. This topic came on as my beautician got pregnant recently, and her first daughter is only one month older than mine, and my 2nd sis and that fren are trying for 2nd one now.... hence the tots....
Basically there are 2 types of feelings abt the 2nd one... first of all, i am worried whether i am capable of loving the 2nd one as much as the first one.... cos' as most parents would know, the first one is always so precious and basically all ur love and concern are given to the first born, so can you love the 2nd one equally much and deep????
Secondly, will i feel guilty towards the firstborn as she is not the central of my universe anymore? Cos' i need to share my love and time with the 2nd child???
I run through my tots with my sisters over the weekend... my sister told me tis "you will be able to love the 2nd one as much. You will be amazed at how big your heart is and will be able to have enuf love for the 2nd one" Each child is special and you will be able to love all of them the same. As for guilt, u realize tt time management become critical and some tasks can be done with both child....so bottomline is;
"Your heart is BIG enough to love all the children tt one is going to have!"
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