That day when we went to Vivo City with my sister, her gal, my favourite niece, Angelica was very whinny. And when she acted up, me being a soft-hearted auntie will try to appease her with food and toys. Yes, bad of me, rite? Then my sister will tell me to leave her be especially when her hubby is trying to distract her with other things and said tt i am spoiling her which i reluctantly did.
On the other hand, i seemed to be more hard-hearted when it comes to my gal. She will be throwing tantrum and hubby and i will be ignoring her and let her cry out. It got me thinking.... are we too hard on our own kids and too lenient on others? Mayb so as we always have high expectation on our own children. She shld be clever, obedient and NOT spoilt.....then how come i will always give in to Angelica then? Hmm....
Sometimes it's hard to be the bad guy. I tend not to give in to Athena when she throws her tantrum. Yes, my little one is a tyrant. She will stamp her foot and show fustrations when she doesnt get her way. I am quite firm in certain aspects. But sometimes it's hard to be the bad guy. Cos' when this happens, my gal will run to my maid and i will feel like @#$%^. A colleague told me yesterday to look everything with a positive and different view. In this case, it means tt my maid has been taking care of her very well and my gal trusts her and is not being ill-treated. I do feel much better after we talked abt it.
Another pt, not sure whether anyone of u have these problems before. i think my gal is quite advanced in her speech as she play with cousin Angelica everyday. So now my gal can say, "apple", "star", "dog", "bird" etc which i thot was pretty impressive for a child of 16 mths. But recently, the tables have turned. Angelica began to imitate my gal and speaks like her instead. My little girl has her own fan club!!!! My mum's neighbour has a 3-yr old grandson who loves my gal too, begin to imitate Athena's actions too! And the best joke is, he told his grandma that he wants a hair-pin just like Xinyi's (my gal's chinese name) so that he can pin it the same way as her! When i told this story to the same collague again, she told me that i shld be happy. It seems that my gal is a natural born leader. She is influential and able to get pp to follow her. Imagine tt!!!! She's rather perceptive, if u asked me. i never even thought abt it in such manner. Guess i have much to learn....
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